My dear Jewish sisters, I have a story to share with you. Before I do so, please, you will need to take off your rose-tinted spectacles for a moment and replace them with MY SPECTACLES to understand and realize that there are serious problems in our frum community. Unfortunately, lack of clarity on the part of Sheitel Machers, Makeup Machers, and Jewish Fashion Machers, etc.. is causing many women to bring the accusing angel into their/our gate. And the DIN of HaShem. However, this is a good thing, because our tragedies give us a wake up call to better our ways.
Please allow me to share why I stated the above. You see: singing here "When I was small I could hear the voice of Hashem on Har Sinai. And I longed to say yes, I will do and obey, but I was trapped in a lie and could not escape. But all would be well because I knew that Hashem would bring me home. No matter how long my travels would take my soul knew where to run to. And now I'm home, Baruch Hashem I'm home. Living Torah everyday and longing for hagula. .... I am just one of many who have returned to the emes of Torah. For I obeyed His command שובו בני אדם Boruch HaShem פוקח עורים המכין מצעדי גבר and so I sing this song of praise in thanks and gratitude because I am home."
You see dear listeners, I wasn't born a Yid. The Torah that our secular Jewish sisters and brothers run far away from is the Torah that I ran towards. I was a slave to my Yetzer Hora and I worshipped falsehoods, so when I see a dear sister that is dressing with clothing that clings to her body and therefore shows every nick and nanny - every curve - when she sits down her skirt goes over her knees, and such dramatic makeup and long provocative sheitels - this truly breaks my heart for that foolish frum woman does not realize that this should not be! Have we forgotten what the niveum the prophets said about the frum women in their days?
The Torah anthology Yalkut ME'AM LO'EZ The Book of Yeshayahu/Isaiah 3 states.
I know what it is to have attention. I used to be a wanna be actress and model. I hide these pictures from our son. Everyone said I looked like Princess Diana but even more prettier - and yes, the falsehood of flattery had me lose the clarity of what was right and what was wrong! I dressed the part my sisters and this life and this way of dressing IS NOT EMES! Please do teshuva now - please do teshuva now - Run to remove the pictures of yourselves with tight clothes that show every nic and nanny of your body - stop wearing such bold makeup - stop going to weddings with skin tight long glittering gowns. Why do you allow men to gaze on your body! This is not Emes! Actually, for what purpose are womem allowing their faces to be in these places in the first place. Do you not have emunah that HaShem can provide you money to psy the bills by word of mouth only? Why exploit yourselves? Mamma Rochel Would Never Do Such a Thing! PLEASE VIEW THIS POST NOT ON MOBILE VIEW BUT WEB VIEW TO SEE ALL VIDEO SELECTIONS!
Sheitel Mackers, please see the post The Hair Generation please be the one overturn the DIN of HaShem with the tragedies of famlies being destroyed by fire....Be the first to trim your sheitel to the top of you shoulders ie pixie... or better yet wear a beautiful scarf! You can reach so many jewish women and have the zcheus of dressing as a bas Yisroel should dress. The zchus of tipping the scale to bringing hageula with rachamim. JUST DO IT! Now this would be a great giveaway! Cutting sheitels for free or giving away beatiful scarves! I closing, may HaShem bentch all of you wonderful women with gezunt, simchas, nachas, parnassah, and may we soon see שיבנה בית המקדש במהרה בימינו
UPDATE: with comments from other websites
I highly suggest everyone also read the section (if not the entire book!) of Modesty: An Adornment for Life by Rabbi Falk. Rabbi Faulk brings the exact heterim for sheitals and explains in serious terms how most of the sheitels worn by the community (including myself, formerly) are completely ussur because there is NO heter for wearing a wig that cannot be clearly identified as such, including all of the reasoning behind the issur.
Essentially the idea that physically covering the hair is enough is false. The woman is supposed to be concealing her beauty for her husband, not putting herself on display and making herself attractive to outsiders and other men using someone else's hair instead of her own.
Whether or not you want to debate this psak (which in my humble is undebatable anyway) there is still the issue that all the real-hair wigs on the market are ussur anyway. The intent of the women buying these sheitels is to hide that they are covering their hair (probably without realizing it as such, that was me) and that intent is ussur - it's ussur to look like you are committing a sin. And there is still much more to the psak that the majority of sheitels today are ussur - again I suggest reading the book.
True tznius is being beautiful in an unassuming, non-attracting way, especially outside of the home. That is Dat Yehudis and the halacha follows from it. I personally received advice from a posek hador to donate my wig to Ezer Mizion who gave it to a young cancer patient and thus made a tikkun for the wig in its own way. I have never been happier looking presentable in public, but saving my beauty for my husband
http://lazerbrody.typepad.com/lazer_beams/2017/09/its-official-all-natural-hairs-wigs-are-now-banned.html
Howard Schranz
New York, New York
Hair is not just hair. Beautiful hair attracts men to women in a SEXUAL way. If a gorgeous wig attracts men's attention to the woman herself, there is indeed a SEXUAL element to this attraction. It is instinctual that both men and women crave attention from the opposite gender. Putting on a wig does NOT diminish that desire, but rather is often used to ENHANCE that desire.
Sara Kay
No disrespect, but you are missing the point of the mitzvah (commandment) when you insist that both the skirt and wig is nothing but a "barrier between the naked body and the rest of the world." You quite correctly stated that the purpose of tznuit is keep those areas of a woman's body that are considered "ervah" private. How do you reconcile that explanation with an apparently senseless "barrier" between skin and air? The point of the tznuit skirt and the head covering is to promote a sense of privacy and self-respect in the Jewish woman, and it therefore follows that any attempt to "outwit" the mitzvah (by covering skin with skin looking material or wearing natural hair on top of hair) indicates a deeply flawed understanding of its purpose.
With a true understanding of the mitzvah of covering the hair, it is difficult to justify those wigs that are as natural/beautiful or even more so than natural hair. All that said, I do not judge those who wear them. However, I find it upsetting when it is passed off as kosher
Sura Beily, Jerusalem Um the examples at the bottom dont really make sense. For instance either wear a skirt that makes your bottom look more attractive or walk around skirtless are not the only two options. Dressing tzinus also means not wearing tight clothing. So the skirt shouldnt be so tight that it makes your bottom more attractive. Also it is not tzinus to wear the same color shirt as your skin tone since it can make a man look twice to see whats going on here. As far as the wig there is a problem of people being able to see a difference between a wig and real hair. If it looks like real hair or even better then it can seem you dont cover your hair at all. Also i have seen women that looked 10 times more attractive aftsr marriage because of their beautiful stylish wig which is not good. To walk arou d with this long beautiful flowing wig that makes men look. Thats why in more orthodox circles even before marriage you should have shoulder length hair so its not so eye catching
